“The greatest attraction between a man and a woman-even
greater than apparel, makeup, and hair styles-is shared conversation. The
deeper the conversation the deeper the attraction. Women are particularly good
listeners and good conversationalists.”*
“Sharing
the wounds of the past and the dreams and visions of the future is the primary
way couples create emotional intimacy, which is why deep one-on-one sharing
should be saved for a committed relationship. Sharing the past makes you
particularly vulnerable, and when you share the future, one of the partners
almost always wants to be a part of the others person’s dreams.”*
“Most of
the time, counterfeit oneness comes in our lives in the form of a listening
ear, a shoulder to cry on, or lips speaking words of encouragement. Women are
particularly vulnerable to the need for emotional intimacy because God made
them more “feelings” oriented. For a woman two of the most appealing
characteristics in a man are gentleness and compassion, and both have a lot to
do with showing feelings. By limiting deep, personal conversations and the
amount of one-on-one alone time they spend together, singles can guard their
hearts from becoming too involved until the commitment level of their
relationship exceeds the emotional level.”*
“Being involved in exclusive relationships before you are
ready to be married is like going shopping without any money; either you will
leave frustrated, or you will take something that doesn’t belong to you.” –Voddie
Baicham JR.
When you try to be best friends with someone of
the opposite sex one of you will inevitably become emotionally one with the
other and therefore make your relationship more than just best friends. Unless
you are committed to the relationship and serious about marriage you are just
going to take what is not yours, which in most cases is the woman’s heart.
Therefore the answer is no, you cannot be just be "best friends" with someone of the opposite sex.
*Directly quoted from Choosing God’s Best by Dr. Don Raunikar.
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